This wise quote from Rumi encouraged me to write about the relation of pleasure and pain. Surprisingly these two opponents are both in a family.
Unpleasure comes with pain and pleasure comes with happiness. But those two are not separate things. Those are two sides of a coin. They are shifting to each other and it’s an important point to consider. Because of this I call them as ‘two modes of life’.
I think psycho analysis could prove this truth if we analyze unpleasure. With analyzing it we soon will reach to an state near and ready for pleasure and it is a big surprise. Two enemies are living in a same room.
Freud first claimed that our mind runs under the pleasure principle which means that it is looking for pleasure. In later writings he changed his attitude and argued that our mind runs with two different drives; Life and dead drives and he considered that the primer one is dead drive. Life drive is constructed on dead drive.
I think study of autism is the best way to show that Freud was right. As autism is mostly about unpleasure and analyzing it will lead us to the fact that for curing, Pleasure shall be constructed on unpleasre. It is actually what I found an effective way to remove some symptoms of autism(in high functioning ones) such as trauma and enhancing social behaviors, although I’m not sure that this will cure everything about autism.
Actually the difficulty of autism is about the fact that the drive for unpleasure is the primer and more powerful one. Besides, repeating is the character of unpleasre while pleasure shall be constructed. If I want to define it simply it is like building a lighthouse in the middle of a wavy ocean.
Consider waves as repeating unpleasure and the main ground which is under the ocean territory, if something could be built (which is I think in our power) will endure.